As you read these words, you realize that the hands that are holding this phone, your hands, belong to HER.

You’re remembering now... and it’s like you cut the light back on! You are HER, already!

You feel HER face smiling now, her shoulders relaxing down from HER ears, HER breath deepening. You notice a go(o)d feeling in HER body— peace, relief, relaxation or joy. In this moment, all of your limitations from the past and therefore, your limited future, are gone. You can feel HER future, now, and it’s BRIGHT af!


You cut on the light and your future is now HER future. Your thoughts are now HER thoughts. You cut on the light and your fear, lack, and worry, are automatically replaced by HER love, affluence and faith. And you KNOW that if you continue to live as HER, even through your current circumstances, HER world will come into view.

You owe it to yourSELF. Stay with the feeling, no matter what. I love you.❤️

Two years ago this morning (5:51 am), I sat with my best friend and watched as she took her last breath. It was intimate and painful and beautiful and scary— the best and worst moment of my life. I was filled with so many powerful emotions that all I could manage were tearful ‘thank yous’. We were so close. We still are.


Not a day goes by that her name isn’t uttered. Her pictures are everywhere— I don’t want my 7-year-old daughter to forget her. My 10-month-old son never met her, but I like to think he knew her well. Right before she passed, she kept asking me about him, wondering how my baby boy was, wanting to see him. Only he wasn’t born yet. He wouldn’t even be conceived for months after she passed. So on days like today, when I’m writing through tears, or sharing memories with them through tears, sad that Max will never know his Great Grandma Maxine, I remember that we were so close that Grandma Maxine loved my Max before I ever met him.

Last night was amazing! Thank you D.C. for coming out (in the snow ❄️ ) to my first #BeHerNow Workshop. Thank you for being open to the experience. Thank you for speaking your truth. Thank you for allowing me to speak mine. The energy in the room was absolutely powerful and I hope you’re loving and living from that presence today. I love you all and can’t wait to do it again!

More pics to come!

Thank you @photographybysimo for the 📸 and for your tireless work setting everything up! Invaluable.

Thanks @allisonfaxbeauty for the beat! You have a beautiful soul. Pics to come!!!!

The instant you consciously choose to shift from feeling like yourself to feeling like yourSELF, your whole life trajectory changes. You level up.

Let’s do it together, right now. Notice your breath. In. Out. Nice! Smile, 😊 BIGGER 😆 Now, listen for the silence. Keep smiling. Don’t think about it, just listen. Cock that left ear and listen for the silence that’s under all the thoughts. Listen like you’re listening to see if you hear the baby stirring in the other room. Listen like it’s after 1am and you’re waiting to see when Bae is gonna try to creep in after a night out. Listen to the silence and the space that allows all the other noises to be. Listen for the silence, listen to the space— it’s in you and all around you. That’s where the joy is. And you’re feeling it now— subtly, in your chest as you stay aware of your smile. You feel the peace, the joy in the silence as you breathe in and out. It’s getting stronger. You’re breathing in the joy. You feel the joy as the silence. That joy you’re feeling right now, it’s always here! It’s you. This is HER. You’re being HER, now.


And when you’re being HER, you ‘die to your past’ (your thoughts were the only thing keeping it alive, anyway) and your future, once predictable, is now teeming with endless possibilities. You notice that you’re thinking her empowering thoughts, feeling her feels, living her confidence. If you stay here longer you’ll be taking her actions— responding to her life situations. And if you make being HER (aka feeling go(o)d)) a habit, the ‘out there’, will begin reflecting HER beliefs, her world, back to you. You are now living HER life, your true potential. You are being fully yourSELF for the first time. Welcome home.

Smile, girl. You’re getting this. Smile. Shift. Stay. Like nothing else matters.

Today, there’s only one choice that matters. You have to stay conscious enough to choose your ‘go(o)d vibe’ over your ‘shook vibe’, regardless of circumstances.

Can you stand firm in your go(o)d feels—unbothered, unshook, smiling and at peace? Or are you gonna seemingly give ‘them’, the power to upset you again, to knock you off balance?


Don’t let their mood, their energy, bring you down. Don’t let your vibe depend on their vibe. It has nothing to do with you. Mind YOUR business. Don’t dip.

You have to do something different if you want to see something different, and it will feel unnatural until it doesn’t. You are not a victim. You are waking up to your power. I love you