by GG Renee of AllTheManyLayers

"We have been raised to fear the 'yes' within ourselves, our deepest cravings."
- Audre Lorde

What are you passionate about? What moves you to tears or to cry out or to dance?

What makes you lose your cool? If you're not willing to go there, how will you know what really matters to you?

How will you find your brilliance?

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There comes a time when you just have to stop trying to be cool.

There’s a shift. Fitting in doesn’t matter so much. Who you are to yourself becomes more important than who you are to other people. You find out that chasing approval is endlessly unsatisfying. Trying to be perfect is exhausting and vulnerability is refreshing.

When this shift occurs, you begin to care more about feeding your spirit than feeding your ego.

The ego wants to be validated. It feeds off of attention and competition. It is defensive and critical of others. The ego can never be enough, do enough or have enough. The goals of the ego are status, bragging rights and rewards.

You might be thinking that you’re not an egotistical person. You don’t walk around loud and raucous, begging for attention. Okay, but perhaps you feed your ego by playing the victim. Allowing people to tell you what you should do and how you should feel, then blaming them when you’re not happy. Feeling ignored, misunderstood and mistreated, and using those excuses to explain why things never work out for you. Giving your power away.

Here’s the shift.

The spirit is validated by itself. It does not seek to find fault or compete. It knows that love begets love begets more love. The spirit seeks to expand its awareness. When you begin to live from this place, life becomes more purposeful. You begin to create your own good feelings. Not the temporary kind of good like a fleeting compliment or a paycheck, but the kind of good that warms you up and stirs your soul. This is how your spirit speaks to you.

Before you can truly commit to finding purpose and discovering yourself, you have to be willing to get naked. To be transparent about where you are in your life and what’s important to you. If you don’t know what’s important to you yet, then be transparent about the fact that you’re figuring it out.

Be prepared to feel different than other people.

Most people walk around this world living completely from the guidance of their egos. Trying to look the part and wondering why they feel empty. Fighting unnecessary battles, telling lies to save face, feeling threatened and out of place. Shifting to spirit means believing in the concepts of faith, compassion, gratitude and forgiveness and allowing those intentions to guide your actions. It means behaving differently and reacting differently, at times drawing attention to yourself for the sake of what you believe in.

To some of you, that will sound scary. Drawing attention? Setting yourself apart? Yes. It’s absolutely necessary to show up in the world as your undiluted self so you can attract people and opportunities that inspire you.

Many of us struggle to find purpose because we are not willing to be this vulnerable. To get the ego-based thoughts out of the way and get closer to the realness. The precious. To what feels so good that it’s embarrassing to admit. But this is the place you have to go.

This is where purpose lives.

This post is based on an excerpt from The Purpose Session.
Four workbooks full of advice, anecdotes and writing prompts
to inspire you to open your mind and live creatively.


What lights you up? Share with me in the comments!

by Susan Walker of DrWalkerWellness

What began as a curious investigation into a technique and system many naturals are using to style their hair ended in anger and frustration and a revelation that as naturals, some of us a don’t feel as though our specific hair texture is “good” enough.

I’m going to preface this post by saying that my own personal bias is woven throughout because of my own personal hair journey and the thoughts, feelings and perceptions of beautiful natural hair I’ve had to fight through when it comes to my hair, to get to the place I’m at right now. It’s candid and to the point. And it may offend. You can stop here or continue to read on.

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The Press Release for a new product on the market. Beautiful Textures is not the only product line that is offering these types of products. But it’s the one I’ve chosen to assess since many women are intrigued by the freedom, flexibility and – well read on.
Strength of Nature, LLC the makers of African Pride, Beautiful Textures, Mega Growth, ElastaQP, Soft&Beautful , TCB, and Proline is changing the rules in hair care with a ground-breaking new product: the Reversible™ Straightening Texture Manageability™ System! 
Now women can have the hair versatility they want without harsh chemicals and without permanently altering their curl pattern. 
Whatever your hair texture – curly, kinky-coily, wavy or frizzy – the Reversible™ Straightening Texture Manageability™ System (TMS) allows you to go from natural curls to straight styles and back again. For relaxed hair, the system extends the time between relaxer new-growth applications. 
“We’ve heard what women have been asking for,” says Strength of Nature CEO Mario de la Guardia. “They want styling versatility. They want no harsh chemicals and they want healthy hair. The Texture Manageability™ System provides all three in a simple, at-home, four-step process. This is truly a game-changer and we at Strength of Nature couldn’t be more thrilled to be ushering in a new category in hair care: texture manageability.”
The secret is the Inner-Active™ Leave-In Conditioner, which is infused with essential oils, natural butters and amino acids, and has no harsh chemicals. The Inner Active™ leave-in conditioner penetrates the hair, causing it to elongate and soften while making it easier to detangle. Once the detangling process is complete, the hair is blow-dried and flat ironed, creating beautifully straight, touchably soft hair with unmatched body, movement and shine – all in a fraction of the time of most traditional straightening methods. 
It just takes four quick steps:
Step 1: Shampoo and rinse hair 3 times. Towel dry.
Step 2: Apply leave-in conditioner. Wait 20 minutes.
Step 3: Blow dry hair using medium heat.
Step 4: Flat iron for desired results. 
TMS gives Reversible™ Straightening that lasts 4 to 6 weeks with the use of the Humidity Defense™ Anti-Reversion Shampoo and Conditioner. 
To flip back to natural, shampoo hair several times with a clarifying shampoo. 
I’m especially interested in the above paragraph:
“The secret is the Inner-Active™ Leave-In Conditioner, which is infused with essential oils, natural butters and amino acids, and has no harsh chemicals. The Inner Active™ leave-in conditioner penetrates the hair, causing it to elongate and soften while making it easier to detangle. Once the detangling process is complete, the hair is blow-dried and flat ironed, creating beautifully straight, touchably soft hair with unmatched body, movement and shine – all in a fraction of the time of most traditional straightening methods.”
If you’ve learned anything from me and my posts you’ll have basic understanding the of the hair’s chemistry.

So you know that there is NO WAY the hair texture can be modified without changing the hair’s chemistry somewhat. No way. In order for your hair to be straightened – be it temporary OR permanent – bonds need to be rearranged. And how can this be done? There are a few ways:
  • Blow drying
  • Flat ironing
  • Brazilian Hair Straightening
  • Japanese straightening system
  • Relaxer
So part of this straightening process of the Texture Manageability System process is blow drying and flat ironing the hair. We know that adding heat through these processes will straighten the hair. But the effects don’t really last 4-6 weeks unless there is some type of heat damage and the hair won’t revert to its curly state. And everyone knows that blow drying and flat ironing naturally curly hair doesn’t make it resistant to humidity. Moisture is not your best friend. So how is it that this system is able to result in hair that resists moisture?

Let’s take a look at the ingredients of the products included in the kit shall we?

Gentle Cleansing Shampoo: Aqua , Sodium Olefin Sulfonate , Shea Butter Amidopropyl Betaine , PEG-150 Distearate , PEG-75 Shea Butter Glycerides

Hmm, nothing too out of the ordinary hair. Looks like a pretty good formula.

Inner-Active Leave-In Conditioner: Aqua , Glyoxyloyl Carbocysteine , Glyoxyloyl Keratin Amino Acids, Shea Butter Aminodpropyltrimonium Chloride , CyclopentaSiloxane , dimethiconol , dimethicone crosspolymer , Silanetriol , panthenol , Isopropyl Palmitate, methylchloroisothiazolinone , methylisothiazolinone
Ahh, yes, this is worth coming back to!

Humidity Defense Anti-Reversion Shampoo: Aqua , Sodium Lauryl Ether Sulfate , Shea Butteraminopropyl Betaine , Cocamidopropyl Betaine , Cocamide MEa , Polyquaternium 67 , Ethylene Glycol Monostearate , Imidazolidinyl Urea

Looks okay. I’m leaving this alone.

Humidity Defense Anti-Reversion Conditioner: Aqua , Cetearyl alcohol , glycerin , Shea Butter Cetyl Esters , Hydrogenated Vegetable Oil , Behentrimonium Methosulfate , Shea Butter Aminopropyltrimonium Chloride , Butyrospermum Parkii Fruit (Shea Butter) , Olea Europaea Fruit Oil (Olive Oil) , Hydrolyzed Glycine Soja Protein (Hydrolyzed Soy Protein) , Mangifera Indica Seed Butter (Mango Butter) , Argan Spinosa Kernel Oil (Argan Oil) , Hydrolyzed Vegetable Protein , Cocos Nucifera Oil (Coconut Oil) , Hydrolyzed Triticum Vulgare Protein (Hydrolyzed Wheat Protein) , Prunus Amygdalus Dulcis Oil (Sweet Almond Oil) , Hydrolyzed Avena Sativa Protein (Hydrolyzed Oat) , Citrus Aurantifolia Peel Oil (Lime Oil) , Citrus Limon Peel Oil (Lemon Oil) , Citrus Limon Peel Wax , PHenoxyethanol , TBHQ , Phospholipids , Glycolipids , Glycine Soja Oil (Soybean Oil) , Glycine Soja Sterols , Hydrolyzed Keratin , Creatine , PEG 90M , Butylene Glycol , hydroxyethylcellulose , Imidazolindyl Urea , DMDM HYDANTOIN , Citric Acid , fragrance , BEnzyl Benzoate , BEnzyl Salicylate , Coumarin , d-limonene , Hexyl cinnamal , Lyral , Methyl Ionone Gamma

So how does this entire process work? I found an image that perfectly depicts the experience as well as the emotions you’ll feel once you use the system and your hair is – and I quote – “more manageable”.
Screen-Shot-2014-02-03-at-12.55.12-PMYou cleanse your hair with the Gentle Cleansing Shampoo and then apply the Inner Active Leave In Conditioner. You blow dry the hair until it’s dry and then flat iron. And voila! Beautiful straight hair. Or – if you choose – more manageable curls.
Sound too good to be true? Not really if you do some research and look up women who have used the product and swear by it. And there’s no doubt in my mind that the system does what it says; that is straightens the hair. But the question is, how is it doing this?

In order to determine what’s going on we need to look at the key product in this entire process. The Inner Active Leave-in that is not to be rinsed out.

Inner-Active Leave-In Conditioner: Aqua , Glyoxyloyl Carbocysteine , Glyoxyloyl Keratin Amino Acids , Shea Butter Aminodpropyltrimonium Chloride , CyclopentaSiloxane , dimethiconol , dimethicone crosspolymer , Silanetriol , panthenol , Isopropyl Palmitate , methylchloroisothiazolinone , methylisothiazolinone

There are a few ingredients in this product but let’s concentrate on the top 5 since it’s these ingredients that determine the effect this product will have on the hair:

Water, Glyoxyloyl Carbocysteine, Glyoxyloyl Keratin Amino Acids, Shea Butter Aminodopropyltrimonium Chloride, Cyclopentasiloxane…
I especially want to focus on these two: glyoxyloyl carbocysteine and glyoxyloyl keratin amino acids.

What are they?

Before I tackle this question, let me back up a little. Let’s go to Brazil. The beginning of…
The Brazilian Keratin Treatment (also called Breezilian Brazilian Keratin Treatment, BKT, Brazilian Blowout, Escova Progressiva, Keratin Cure or Keratin Straightening)

An attempt to achieve semi-permanent to permanently straight hair that was reversion resistant was used by stylists in Brazil starting in 2003. They used a liquid or lotion containing formaldehyde (1.5-5%) and other ingredients such as keratin, conditioning agents, aldehydes or other catalysts and preservatives. They used a blow-drying system (known as “escova progressiva”). The hair is blow-dried and flat-ironed at a very high heat (450F) while the product is still on the hair. After flat-ironing the hair is rinsed and then styled.
Why formaldehyde? The use of this chemical may be new in hair care but formaldehyde treatments have been commonly used in the wool and textile industry. Since wool and the hair fiber share similarities, the use of formaldehyde on wool can give some insight into how it may work on the hair.

Formaldehyde can form cross-links with protein in specific regions of the hair to form bonds, holding them together in a semi-permanent fashion. The best pH for this reaction is between 6.0 and 7.0. The bonds don’t last forever and are broken through repeated washing cycles, allowing the hair to return to it’s previously curly state.

The smaller polypeptides and amino acids of the hydrolyzed keratin in the active liquid or lotion penetrate the cuticle and help to plump the hair and fill in gaps. The larger molecular weight portions form a film on the surface of the hair and are held there by the crosslinks. The high-temperature (and I do mean high) flat-ironing process straightens the hair and locks in the new straighter configuration. It also seals the cuticle and the keratin film on the surface.

While the hair straightened using this process was silky and shiny, there was one major drawback. Umm, the formaldehyde?!

The allowable amount of formaldehyde in hair and skin care products in many countries can’t be more that .2% free formaldehyde. Note the solutions used contained way more than this amount. 1.5-5% formaldehyde. Exposure to formaldehyde solutions can cause contact dermatitis or skin irritations. The fumes emitted during the straightening and smoothing process containing formaldehyde were cause for concern. They caused irritation of the eyes, respiratory tract, nose and throat. The could also cause burning of the eyes and throat, watering of the eyes, dry mouth, loss of smell, headache and feeling of grogginess. To top it all off, formaldehyde is a known carcinogen.
The Occupational Health and Safety Adminstration (OSHA) has three airborne exposure levels for formaldehyde:
  • Permissible Exposure Limit (PEL) of .75 ppm of formaldehyde for 8 hours
  • The action level (AL) of .50 ppm for 8 hours
  • Short Term Exposure Limit (STEL) is 2 ppm for 15 minutes
In other words, these are the maximum safe exposure levels for specific time periods.

Since the toxicity of these methods has been established, companies have been searching for ways to give women what they want. Whether natural or not, women want to have their cake and eat it too. Am I wrong? Who doesn’t want more “manageable” hair? You know, the truly “wash n go” hair that requires nothing but a light misting of water, the application of conditioner for great curl definition and that’s it. It would save women time, money and a whole lot of stress dealing with their natural hair. They would also have styling versatility without a ton of risk. They can wear their hair straight if they choose and for longer periods of time. Yes, this is what women want. This is what the press release said! Give women what they want. This new “category” of hair care. This so-called “texture manageability”. Are you kidding me? This is the name for it???

In any case, enter the Texture Manageability System. And let’s turn our attention back to the “Inner Active Leave-In Conditioner”.

From the Press Release:
“The secret is the Inner-Active™ Leave-In Conditioner, which is infused with essential oils, natural butters and amino acids, and has no harsh chemicals .”
Really? Let’s look at glyoxyloyl carbocysteine and glyoxyloyl keratin amino acids. Glyoxyloyl carbocysteine is a reaction products of glycolic acid + acetic acid + acetic acid. Glyoxyloyl keratin amino acids is the product obtained by the reaction of oxoacetamide and keratin amino acids.

It’s interesting to me, that if these ingredients ARE NOT chemicals, that they’re found on PubChem, a chemical database. What is Pubchem? PubChem is a database of chemical molecules and their activities against biological assays. Oh but I guess I missed the words “harsh chemicals”. Whatever that means.

Anyway these ingredients are relatively new so there is not much information about them. From what I have found they seem to function as anti-static compounds and hair straighteners. How do they work? The bonds in your hair that help hold its shape contain an amino acid called cysteine. When you use a product that adds more cysteine to your hair, under the right conditions of pH and temperature, you can rearrange some of the cysteine bridges and force your hair into a straighter shape.

Dr. Ali Syed, an accomplished researcher and expert in cosmetic chemistry and ethnic hair stated this:
“Some companies are starting to employ formaldehyde’s cousins such as gluteraldehyde or glyoxal in their systems and marketing that as a positive attribute. What they forget to mention is that they react with the hair in the same manner that formaldehyde does. The compounds expose the stylists and salon patrons to the exact same health issues. Gluteraldehyde or glyoxal may perhaps be weaker than formaldehyde but the companies may be using as much or even higher percentages to achieve the same effective straightening.” -Dr. Ali Syed, The Truth About Keratin (BKT) Treatments
Recently Dr. Syed conducted a study to evaluate both the effectivness and safety of the new reactive ingredient Glyoxyloyl Carbocysteine (and) Glyoxyloyl Amino Acids on smoothing and straightening the hair, and formaldehyde release on type 2A -3A hair. The reason these hair textures were chosen t0 be evaluated is that type 4 hair is usually easily straightened with conventional chemical relaxers; however type 2 and type 3 hair tends to be resistant.

It’s important to note that there are several “smoothing” systems on the market. While most systems have shampoos and follow up conditioners, the main product is the smoothing liquid or cream that goes onto the hair to do the job of straightening.

In general, the smoothing products will have the following characteristics and steps to take with some variations among brands:
  • It is based upon Glyoxylol Carbocysteine and Amino Acids at 15% active levels
  • The pH will be low – about 1.5-2.0
  • It is left on the hair for 20 to 30 minutes, blow dried in and then flat ironed at 230°C (about 450°F)
Hair is rinsed with water, shampooed gently, conditioned, and blow dried and flat ironed for final style

According to the study these smoothing systems offer the following:
  • Less damaging compared to othaer straightening systems (like relaxers)
  • Reduces hair volume for type 2A-3A hair types (the test hair types)
  • Hair is easier to comb during wet and dry combing
  • Hair has a radiant shine
  • Daily styling and manageability is a lot easier
  • During the application of the lotion and the time it sits on the hair there’s no formaldehyde detectable. However during flat ironing for about an hour levels were at .14 ppm
Compared with formaldehyde treatments, hair treated with glyoxylol carbocysteine:
  • Has less elasticity but better straightening ability
  • The ease of combing of Type 2 hair increases significantly after the treatment.
  • There’s more shine
  • Is more resistant to humidity
  • Emits less formaldehyde which falls well within the OSHA guidelines
So why am I angry?
I suppose I should be used to it by now. The shady, deceptive advertising that is done by companies. Preying upon the secret desires and fears of women and to have hair that is “more manageable” without the use of “harsh” chemicals. It’s like a relaxer without the chemicals right?

I guess I’m angrier at the message it sends to women who are natural. Those women who don’t have that desired hair texture. Let's call the texture what it is – the “feels like silk” hair strands. The truly wash n go hair. The hair that requires little work to look good instead of spending hours washing, conditioning, detangling and twisting, just to get the desired style. I feel the anger because my hair texture would be considered to be the “less manageable” texture. And I’ve fought so hard since I embraced my natural hair texture to understand it and appreciate it and truly get it and accept what I’ve been given. And I feel that some of us as natural, we haven’t truly embraced this process and we’re not truly free. So it both angers AND saddens me that “we” are asking for a new category of hair care products that chemically alters our hair without the permanence of a texturizer or chemical relaxer in order to make our hair easier to deal with.

And some naturals are truly believing what the product companies are feeding them about these types of products. I saw this on one blogger’s site:
In a nutshell, TMS is an amino acid (protein) treatment that helps you go from curly to straight and back to curly. It helps to manage your texture and helps you to achieve straightness for up to 4 to 6 weeks. BUT Beautiful Textures wants us to know it’s not a keratin treatment —keratin treatments typically have a longer “life span” in terms of how long it’s supposed to keep your hair straight. What makes it different? It doesn’t include any chemicals that permanently change your hair.”
See this statement above is why you can’t just take hair care advice and recommendations from just ANYONE. What does this mean anyway? An “amino acid treatment that helps you go from curly to straight and back to curly”… What is that?

Because this ingredient right here: Glyoxyloyl keratin amino acids tells me that there is keratin in the product. And if this blogger understood her ingredients, she would know that this is in fact a keratin treatment.

Yes, I’m a bit harsh and forgive me for being so. It’s just the that natural hair care misinformation is so pervasive that confusion, frustration and desperation is inevitable.

So where do I stand?

DO YOUR RESEARCH and know what you’re getting yourself into. You’re altering the chemistry of your hair! I don’t care how temporary or permanent it is, this is what you’re doing. The product is rearranging bonds, forming new ones and causing the hair to stay in a specific configuration.

I’m all for styling versatility and wanting to manage your hair a little easier if you find it difficult to be natural. I get it. And I’m not judging you if you want to use these systems. My only issue is you not knowing what you’re putting on your hair and how you’re taking care of it. Again it goes back to taking someone else’s word for it and not doing a thorough investigation yourself. If you’ve done the investigation, understand the risks associated with it and you’re okay with them then go ahead! And what are the risks? According to the Beauty Brains:
“These…straightening products are safer than formaldehyde-based products. However, they can damage hair by making it dry and prone to breakage. If you like the straightening effect you get from these products you may be willing to put up with some degree of damage.”
 The use of these systems depends on your natural hair philosophy. You know, that driving concept that runs through all of your decisions when it comes to your natural hair. The purpose of having natural hair is to truly enjoy the freedom that comes with it. And that may mean straightening once in a while. Just don’t be fooled by companies and stylists that understand the fears of many women who are natural.

I get it.  Most of you have embraced your natural hair in order to NOT put chemicals on your hair. You were tired of the breakage, damage and likely concerned with the health issues that came with it. You tried “being natural” and it may or may not be what you thought it was going to be. Perhaps certain expectations weren’t met. Maybe you’re tired of spending tons of money trying products that don’t seem to work for you. And you’re desire for easier manageability has you trying different techniques to accomplish this without “chemicals”. Because that is the fear. Chemicals. So companies are going to market their products as being “chemical free”. The reality is, they’re not.

Oh, and they have a system for children too. What are we teaching them? A loaded question and one I don’t really want to tackle right now. But it’s something to think about. My view is skewed since the main reason I embraced my natural hair was because of my daughter. To set an example and ensure she loved her hair. So my personal philosophy prevents me from trying this system. That would go against everything I believe in about being natural even though I would love to run a comb through my hair when it’s wet with no tangling or breakage!
So what’s the bottom line?
  • The Beautiful Texture Hair Manageability System (I hate the name BTW) is a new generation keratin treatment. Don’t get it twisted or believe the marketing jargon. If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck then (fill in the blanks).
  • It IS a chemical treatment system that works by altering the chemistry of the hair through rearranging bonds and forcing the hair into a straighter shape…even if it is temporary.
  • The process requires the correct pH and heat in order for it to be successful. The heat application required is blow drying and flat ironing at 450F. Is this a problem? Maybe or maybe not. But one thing is for sure. Heat can damage the hair. Read this to find out how.
  • The leave-in lotions contain a lot of silicones. These silicones act as heat protectors to reduce damage from the application of heat during the process and to protect the cuticle from damage.
My take on it? It offers options. Styling options and texture flexibility. Just know what the product is all about and what you’re using on your hair. Don’t be fooled by marketing hype and persuaded by people who don’t know what the product is really about. If using the product allows you to embrace your texture more readily then I say go for it. Remember being natural is about freedom to choose how you want to style and care for your hair. For me at this point these products just don’t line up with my personal natural hair philosophy. I’m not a purist by any means, nor do I follow conventional “natural hair rules”.  But I need to do this for myself and for my beautiful daughters.

So there you have it. A new class of products designed to improve your hair’s manageability and softness and to give styling versatility. Does it do what is says? I have no doubt. It’s up to you to determine if a system like this is right for you.

Have you tried it? How did it work for you? Share your thoughts and experiences.

CN Says:
 Thank you Susan for doing us this service and breaking it all the way down.  The point of social media, the blogs, the vlogs, is to get the real information out to folks so that we can make educated decisions and honestly, we need to do better.  Ladies, if you take nothing else from this post, please, do your own research and double check label claims (against the actual ingredients).  #BeYourOwnGuru #TruthInAdvertising #NaturalsStandUp

Also, for those that want style versatility and tips on straightening natural hair, check out these links-

By Shaunic of Brown Girls Hair

Every little girl loves to play in Mommy's clothes, shoes, and jewelry. She loves to watch Mom put on her make up and comb her hair. She's looking at you dreaming of the day when she will be able to do it too!

We all know that our children learn best by watching what we do, not what we say. The first step to teaching your daughter how to care for her hair is to establish good hair habits with your hair first. She's always watching you, even when you aren't paying attention.

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1. Start early teaching her what to do at bath and bed time.  I started teaching my daughter to wear a shower cap at bath time at the age of 4. This is a great age because you don't have to worry too much about her putting it in her mouth and chocking on it. You still have to keep an eye on her because it is plastic, and she is in a tub of water. Parental supervision is always needed when plastic and water is involved.

Once she gets out of the tub, switch from the shower cap immediately to the satin bonnet. After she does it religiously, it will become automatic!

Just like you create a routine for your hair, create one for your daughter too. Not just the one that you do on her hair, but create a simple one for her to do as well.

2. As early as 5 or 6, you can start teaching her to moisturize her hair depending on the thickness and/length of her hair. A child with long and thick hair may have more of a challenge with this task. So you may need to wait until your child becomes a little older and more patient. Always start by keeping the process easy and fun! If she doesn't think it's a fun tasks to do, wait until she does!

You can start with a simple method like putting her hair in 4 sections, then show her how to put the moisturizer in the palm of her hand, rub it in her hands, then apply it to her hair from root to end one section at a time.

Give her one very small portion of a section to start with. As she grows more comfortable over time, add more to her section. Keep increasing her portion (as time goes). For example this week she does one small section and next week add a little more to her section etc.

3. Let her help wash and detangle her hair on wash day. All kids love to play in bubbles! On wash day, you can give her a small section of her hair (in the front so that she can see in the mirror) to help wash and detangle. This is a great way to teach her the basics of how to do it. As she grows older, you can add more hair for her to do. Eventually, she'll be able to do her whole head!

The timeline of when you start to teach your daughter is at your discretion because you know your child better than anyone else. Just know that you are always teaching her by what you do, so make your hair habits good ones and she will follow!


My name is Paulah, I’m 22 years old and I currently live in Ann Arbor, MI. I’ll be moving to Washington, D.C. soon to pursue a Master’s in Public Health at George Washington University. I’ve been natural for almost 4 years. Although it wasn’t always an easy journey, I fall more in love with my hair every day and I will never relax again.

How long have you been natural?
My last relaxer was almost 4 years ago and I cut my relaxed ends off about 3 years ago.

What motivated you to transition? Were you a transitioner or a Big Chopper& why?
I was motivated to transition by two close friends in college and eventually my entire group of girlfriends went natural. I was too afraid to big chop because I did not want really short hair, so I had this whole plan of how I would transition for a really long time, just cutting the ends slowly until my relaxed hair was gone. That didn’t really work because I got sick of the two different textures so after a year I cut off my relaxed hair.

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How would you describe your hair?
My hair is very thick and I have different textures throughout my head. Some parts are kinky and other parts are more curly. Also, my hair has a mind of her own so I just try to work with her as best as I can.

What do you love most about your hair?
I love all the different things I can do with my hair. I can get a fabulous twist out one day and have a thick mane of straight hair the next.

What has been the most memorable part of your journey? Has it been easy or difficult or both?!
My journey has been both difficult and easy. It was difficult when I first started because I didn’t know what I was doing. Now it’s fairly easy because I’ve gotten the hang of things. The most memorable part of my journey was when I stopped blow-drying and started rocking twist outs on wet or air-dryed hair. I felt like I had finally become comfortable enough with my hair to just wear it as it is and that was a major milestone for me.

What were some of your favorite transitioning hairstyles?
My favorite transitioning style was a bantu knot out. My favorite natural styles are flexi-rod sets and Marley twists.

What have your experiences been as a ‘natural?’ Any memorable reactions from family or others?
When I first went natural, I mainly did it to grow my hair long. That is still my goal but now there’s a spiritual aspect to it, which is about accepting my Blackness and my unique beauty. I remember my mother saying that I wouldn’t be able to grow long hair and I was determined to prove her wrong. I don’t think she intended to be negative, she was really trying to point out that I shouldn’t believe that I can buy a bunch of hair products and all of sudden I’ll have hair down my back. She was right, being a product junkie does not mean that your hair will grow. I had to learn how to take care of my hair in order for it to be truly healthy.

What is your hair regimen (including fav products)?
I wash and deep condition my hair once a week. Usually I’ll do a twist out or just keep my hair in a low bun. I love coconut oil, apple cider vinegar, Alba conditioners, and rosemary oil. I’ve recently started using Jamaican Black Castor Oil and I think I like it. Also, every 3 months or so I’ll henna my hair.

What are some of your favorite natural hair websites,YouTuber’s, or blogs?
My favorite Tumblr page is naturalhaireverything. Shoutout to Mel for always posting my pics/videos when I submit them to her, I appreciate it. I love Naptural85, Nikki Mae, and Alicia James on Youtube.

Anything you want the readers to know? Inspirational words?
I would say that if you’re considering going natural, just do it. It is liberating in so many ways – I don’t have to hide from rain or swimming pools and I just feel like this beautiful Black queen when I walk around with my ‘fro. And anything you can do with relaxed hair, you can do with natural hair and it will probably look ten times better!

Where can people find you for more information?
I’m on Instagram @DownAzzJawn. My Youtube page is My e-mail is [email protected] and feel free to hit me up with questions or just to say hey girl!

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by Toia B. of

I understand… sometimes our hair needs a break or we may want to make life a bit easier by installing a weave. Thing is, while they can be cute, some of us forget that we actually have hair under there! O_O Some women (and I know this for a fact!) feel that once they slap that puppy on, they can just get up and go for months on end without giving any attention to the hair growing out of their scalp. No bueno, kids!

You MUST take care of your OWN hair, even especially when you were weaves and wigs. That closed-in environment can become a hotbed for bacteria and fungus! Leaving your hair to its own devices can lead to buildup of excessive dandruff and more serious issues like hair loss and infections.

PLEASE, regularly cleanse, condition and moisturize your hair and scalp.

But some may wonder…

How Is That Possible With a “Sew-In”?

Sure, your hair may be all braided up but you can still effectively cleanse your scalp. Simply lift and section off each weft and apply your shampoo to as much of the area as you can. Here’s what I used to do: while in the shower, I’d wet my hair, apply the shampoo to each exposed row of scalp, massage it in, let it sit for a few minutes to let it do its thing, rinse and repeat. Same with the conditioner. Afterwards, be sure to completely dry your hair.

To prevent excessive dryness, some may use an applicator bottle of oil for the scalp and hair to lubricate the situation. Others may combine their favorite oils, a leave-in and other ingredients (such as glycerin and other humectants) into a spray bottle for easy application. Take a look at my spray bottle concoction.

So, ladies… don’t weave it (or wig it) and forget it! A protective style means nothing if you don’t actually take care of your own hair while wearing it.

If you wear weaves or wigs on occasion, how do YOU care for your hair? What are some techniques that have worked for you? Share below!