"You can’t ask the sun to shine because the sun is shining; but you can bring yourself into that sunshine. Once you bring yourself into that sunshine, you don’t have to ask for qualities of sun, whether it’s sun tan or whether it’s warmth. Automatically being embodied or included in that sunshine, all that the sun is acts upon and through our being. 

In the same way, then, to entertain a sense of separation from God is to deprive one’s self of all the blessing, benediction, activity, presence and power of God. To come consciously into the awareness, the actual feeling, realization, click of God’s presence is automatically to bring that presence and power into our experience. And so you see why you must rise above the sea of thought because thinking won’t make this so. You must rise above the sea of thought into an actual consciousness, an actual awareness, an actual feeling of God’s presence. Then all things are added.

In the Western world, it is considered right to pray or do mental work for things, conditions, circumstances, and, to me, that would be very much like sitting here (in this room) and praying for sun tan or sun warmth. And I would sit here forever and forever and forever, and I would not have them. Why? Because there is no such thing as the warmth of the sun or the sun tan separate and apart from the sun itself. So if I only will stop praying long enough for warmth and tan and get out in the sun, I’ll have the warmth and I’ll have the tan without asking for them. They’ll be there of their own accord.  --Joel Goldsmith
I hope this analogy is as powerful for you as it was for me when I first read it! I came upon it years ago and have re-visited it at least once a week ever since (it’s another note in my iPhone, lol). If you make THE PRESENCE primary, like nothing else matters, you won’t have to pray and ask and plead… the stuff you think you want will show up effortlessly as a result of your conscious awareness of your SELF.  You won't even worry anymore, because as soon as you feel that inner peace (which is always present no matter the circumstances), you'll know that everything is straight!  Stay single-minded. You got this.

Your other self,

Life is made up of the little things, the little moments, seemingly mundane-- like waiting in line, scrolling through your feed, walking to the car, getting up from the couch, preparing a meal, or driving to the store.


Moment in, moment out. That’s honestly like 99% of your lived experience and you’re on auto-pilot for much of it, until you have to slam on the breaks, or Bae suddenly gets down on one knee with little box in hand.

You’re literally sleep walking through life waiting on the ‘awesome’ stuff, avoiding the ‘terrible’ stuff, never, ever present to THIS STUFF here, now, which is your only point of power. So today, I want you to take back a little bit of your power. For the rest of the day, every time you go from sitting to standing, I want you to do it consciously. Become totally aware in that moment, like you’re watching a movie. In fact, watch that body like it’s not yours, but a character in a movie. Watch it stand, then consciously think and feel ‘thank you, thank you, thank you’, and then go about your business. Bringing just this much presence and appreciation into your life will have PROFOUND and swift effects. It's a small, 3 second addition to your day but it will yield big results.  ‘Take care of the present and the future will take care of itself’- Ramana Maharshi

erry'body smiling!

There's a note in my iphone from 2013 titled 'How to Shift Right Quick' and the instructions read- 'short, quick breaths, breathe into chest and smile' (similar to what I shared, here).  It's a process that naturally developed out of my desire to instantly experience the good feels that were previously only available to me during lengthy meditation sessions.

I found it to be highly dependable, efficient and up until recently, I thought it was unique and highly personal. Fast forward to last week-- I came across a meditation called 'inner smile' while reading Osho's 'The Orange Book'. It was absolutely amazing and confirming to read his words explaining a technique that I'd been doing for 4 years! I promise that if you sit with these feels 3 times a day for 10 minutes each, your whole world will change from the inside out. Straight miracles.

Step 1: Relaxing

Whenever you are sitting with nothing to do, relax your lower jaw and let your mouth open just slightly. Start breathing from the mouth, but not deeply. Just let the body breathe so it becomes more and more shallow. When you feel that the breath has become very shallow and your mouth is open and jaw relaxed, your whole body will feel very relaxed.

Step 2: Allow an inner smile

Now start feeling a smile begin to grow – not on your face (necessarily) but all over your being. it is an existential smile that spreads inside you, from your belly. It is a smile, not a laugh, so it is very soft and delicate – like a little rosebud opening in the belly, its fragrance spreading all over the body.

Once you have known what this smile is you can remain happy for 24 hours. And whenever you feel that you are missing that happiness, just close your eyes and catch hold of that smile again, and it will be there: it is always there.' (Osho: The Orange Book)

Could you feel the shift? Could you stay there?
day 4 hurr! (Dry flat twist-n-curl)

Think of your thought stream like your FB feed.

There are posts (thoughts) that make you feel good, posts that make you feel bad and posts that don’t make you feel any type of way. In this analogy though, you as the user don’t have the ability to create posts. You aren’t the poster (the thinker), you aren't the scroller (the doer). All you ever 'do' is watch the feed (thought stream) and the never ending posts, placing your attention on the ones of interest. And after a while, the FB algorithm narrows your feed to serve up more posts like the ones you’ve been giving the most attention to, both the good and the bad. Your only power in this scenario is the ability to choose where you place your attention. And pretty soon, you’re locked into a feedback loop where your mood is being constantly reinforced by posts that make you feel even more that way- whether joyful or sad. You become your feed and it's reflected as your life. There's a third choice, tho.

While looking at the feed on your phone screen, you could turn your attention around 180 degrees and consciously place it on what’s aware of the feed. Bring your phone up a little closer to your face, until it’s about 2 inches from your nose.

Actually do this.  I'll wait.

Now, do you see your face AND your phone or just your phone? Try this now! When I bring my phone up to where other people see my face, I don’t see my face, I see only space. I also see my phone, a hand, a computer, my body, a chair, and the roof top view of D.C.—sky, clouds, flowers. That's my current view. What's yours?

this is always your view out... you don't see your face, ever! You just see your body and the surrounding environment.  YOU are the space that contains everything that's on display.  That's the way it's always been. You just forgot! 

You are not just that body/mind, you are this open space- you are the container for and the Source of the thoughts, your phone, these words, your body, your feelings, and everything that’s on display now (and every subsequent now). You never see your face, except for in reflective surfaces. Don't dismiss this.  (click here for more experiential enlightenment instructions)

Even though you now know who you are now beyond your feed, it continues to refresh constantly, the posts (thoughts) just affect you less. You give them less attention. And now you can live consciously from this space (it's peaceful there) and use thoughts the way they were intended—as a tool to create and see your best life! #ThankYouThankYouThankYou

Your other self,

p.s. this isn't a perfect analogy, nothing is.  But hopefully it gave you some insights.  It's important to note that in 'reality', all the posts (thoughts) are neutral-- meaning is given (based on past experiences) and then there are feels (good or bad). Also, the whole bit about not choosing posts (thoughts), that's actually the case in your lived experience!  Watch closely and see.  You have never been the thinker.  You never were the doer. You are what is aware of those activities. #paradox

p.p.s. If this experiential enlightenment article actually resonated and you want more on this perspective shift, check out Harding's Headless Way and his list of super easy 'experiments', especially the 'pointing here' one.  Absolutely changed my life 4 years ago-- it took me about 5 months to see my 'no face', and then it became super apparent!  It's especially easy to 'see' if you're sitting in a dimly lit room.  The first time I saw it, I was sitting up in my bed, re-reading the instructions for the millionth time and I had the phone close to my face (reading in the dark) and the shift happened instantly and I immediately felt lighter and fell out laughing.  It's super obvious, super ordinary, but super important.  Also check out my post that I wrote on it a year or so ago. Note that as this insight unfolds you come to see that you're also not that body/mind, lol.  You're also not seeing the space, you are the space.  If you want to approach this realization from another angle, check out Sri Ramana Maharshi's 'Be As You Are' and start a self inquiry practice.  Different road, same destination.  

Q: ‘Nikki, as a busy mom and business woman, when you’re on the go or frustrated and tired because of a crying baby/hubby working your nerves /dealing with deadlines /etc (lol) and your mind is racing on the externals around you and what’s coming up—how do you bring it all back to center yourself and manifest the life you want to live?’ –WB

A: After years of practicing different centering techniques and then getting confused about what to do when problems came up (too many options), I decided that it was best to ride one pony and stick with it. Now, when shit gets real, which is everyday, I always, already know which practice to do to find my way back home. Home is my ‘center’. And the more I practice riding the same pony, the easier it gets and the more I come to trust it.  Right now, that pony is ‘thank you, thank you, thank you’. And when I repeat it silently, no matter what seeming problem is popping off, I can ride that pony right on home, and all is well. (and now Ginuwine will be looped in my head for the rest of the day)

But what works for me may not work for you. I’m going to give you my short list of the most effective ‘ponies’ and once you pick one, ride her and her alone. Also, make a note in your phone that says, ‘for when I’m mad af’. And type out what you’re supposed to do when you’re upset. It’s so helpful to be reminded in the moment. I made my ‘for when I’m mad af’ note instructions my homescreen on my phone so I can get to it quick, lol. I’ve got a lot of triggers!  The best thing about the 'thank you' pony is that I do it constantly (not just when i'm upset) which makes it easier to find my way home when the road gets rocky.

Remember, your only goal is to return 'home' in every moment.  To restore your inner world to calmness and peace.  The side effect is more abundant living in the 'outer' world.  There are tons of access points but here are a few that have worked for me:

1. Stay where your feet are – ‘cause your feet can’t be in the past or the future, they can only ever be HERE, NOW. And when you’ve found your feet, thoughts cease and you realize you’re home. And home feels good. Stay there.

2. If you feel bad, something you’re thinking is WRONG. For instance, the thought may come, ‘I’m never going to feel better, this is hopeless’. This thought makes you feel bad not because it is true but because it is not true! Your higher self/the universe/life/GOD doesn’t agree with your assessment. Once you recognize that, you’re home. And home feels good. Stay there.

3. When something is working your nerves, STOP and ask yourself, ‘what do I want from this situation?’ This redirects your mind to a more positive train of thought. Abraham Hicks calls it pivoting. For instance, if Gene is getting on my nerves, I’ll stop listening to him for a second and ask myself, ‘what do I want from this situation?’ and the answer bubbles up on its own—‘peace’. And I instantly feel relief. And then I’m home. And home feels good. And I stay there.

4. When you become aware of an upsetting or concerning thought, realize that you’re only aware of it because you've already leveled on it, that’s why you can see it in the first place! It doesn’t come up so you can dwell on it and worry about it, it comes up so you can dismiss it on sight. Then stay in that recognition. It feels good. You’re home. Stay there.

Your other self,

P.s. keep sending me questions! It keeps me focused!