The closer we get towards the end of the year, the more I tend to reflect back on the annual lessons learned.   This year was particularly unique because it’s the first year that I ventured into full time entrepreneurship.  Several of my friends expressed their interest in living a life of having full control over their time.  But now, over a year later, most are in the exact same position they were in a year ago.

If I had to assess why they aren’t closer to their desires than they should be, it’s because they spent most of their time fueling the wrong outcomes.  It’s critical to remember that our outcomes are created.  We directly influence most of our current outcomes.  We applied to the companies that employ us. We chose to live where we live.  We decide to what wear each day.  Throughout our day, we make thousands of choices which combine (and compound) to create & support our outcomes.

There are aspects of our lives that don’t align with what we wish to experience.  We want something more, something different.  Our desires are clear, but our actions aren’t aligned.  Instead of entering the creation process, our actions are continuing to feed our current reality.

It’s really easy to constantly proclaim that you want something.  That requires very little effort.  The true test of whether you are feeding your desires is to look at your current actions.  Imagine your current results as a tree and your new, desired reality as a seed. When you talk about your desires, it’s like holding the seed in your hand and talking about how it can grow into a mighty tree.   But if no actions are taken in reality, your seed remains above ground.

On the flip side, as you continue to act in your currently reality, you are watering and fertilizing the tree.  My advice to you is that you shift your focus to the tiny seed.  The seed will require much more work and attention before it even begins to sprout.  But it too has the potential to become a strong powerful tree.  Every single thing you desire for yourself has potential to become reality.  But if you constantly find yourself in a position where a year has gone by and you are still in the same place, it’s because you haven’t been doing the work of nurturing your seed(s).

That’s ok. Because a seed that has been above ground for years can be planted and can still produce ample fruits.  All you have to do is reallocate your time and focus.  When you make plans for your day/week, how much of your time are you allowing to feed your seeds?  Because seeds are so small, it’s easy to overlook them.  Each morning, before you start your day, ask yourself the following questions.  “What do I want for myself?”  Then ask “what can I do today to feed that new reality?”

 As we move into the new year, I urge you to fine tune your ability to create.  Let’s stop talking about our seeds that still remain above ground.  Instead, lets place them in fertile soil and nurture them continuously until they become our new reality.

As many of you know one of my success rituals is to listen to various motivational and inspirational videos on Youtube.  They range in topic.  Sometimes I watch entire seminars and other times, I’m listening to someone share their story as they talk into their cell phone camera.

Recently, I noticed a certain book being mentioned over and over again in a lot of the videos I’ve been watching.  Heck, even one of my business coaches boast of this book as part of his strategy for success.  I tried to ignore it, but everywhere I turned people kept referencing Gary Keller’s The One Thing.

You may have heard of Keller Williams Reality.  Gary founded that company over 30 years ago and helped grow it into the largest real estate company in the US.  The tag line for his book, The One Thing, is The Surprisingly Simple Truth behind Extraordinary Results.  Opening up a Real Estate firm in Austin and growing to become the largest in the city within two years is extraordinary.

Since so many of the people I listen to were inspired by his book, I decided to grab it for myself.  In his book Gary asks a question that changed his life and could certainly change ours.

What’s the ONE Thing you can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary? 

The book is chock full of powerful information but if I had to grab the one thing from The One Thing book, it would this question.  I’ve got a multitude of goals I’d like to accomplish. It often feels like I’m juggling to keep all the balls in the air.  So I asked myself, “what is the ONE Thing I can do, that by doing it, everything (all of my goals/intentions) will be easier or unnecessary?

The answer came much more quickly than I anticipated.  For me, the one thing is my meditation/focused concentration practice.  Why? Because when I’m consistent with this practice, I glide through life.  Everything becomes effortless, I feel amazing, my awareness & clarity is incredible and I operate like Eddie after popping a limitless pill.  I know for a fact, that by focusing all my efforts on this one thing, everything else will be easier or unnecessary.

So that’s what I’ve decided to do, my one priority for the rest of 2015 is that I execute my one thing.  Now the ball is in your court.  First, I highly recommend you get the book.  It’s a must if you are on a success journey.  Secondly, even before you buy The One Thing, I ask you to answer this question for yourself.  You can ask it on a macro level, or on a micro level.  For instance, I can ask myself “what’s the one thing I can do (TODAY OR RIGHT NOW) that by doing it, everything else will be easier or unnecessary?”

It’s a glorious Monday.  Hopefully, you are taking advantage of the time change by getting up at your normal time (pre-daylight savings) and allocating that extra hour towards creating new realities.

This morning, I want to bring your attention towards something that could really be holding you back.  It’s something we all do….sometimes subconsciously.  I’m bringing attention to this action, so whenever we find ourselves entertaining the thought of “what if,” we can respond accordingly.

Typically, whenever we ask “what if” we are usually coming from a place of fear.  Asking what if implies that a worse case scenario could likely take place.  Most often, a person who wonders what if isn’t really looking for an answer to the question, but is merely expressing their internal fears as an external question.

Don’t get me wrong, sometimes, what if questions are legitimate, but only if you are operating from a place of seeking solutions versus looking for reasons not to do something. 

Here’s an example to illustrate “what ifs” in the form of fear.  A customer of mine inquired about the location of her package.  I couldn’t find the right information online so I decided call the Post Office customer service to get a little help.  The woman on the other line was very friendly and helpful.  As she began her investigation, we engaged in small talk to pass the time.  When we got on the topic of my business, her voice lit up.  Next she expressed her desire to start her own business and work for herself.  “But, she stated, what if the customer’s packages get lost?…..That’s always been my concern.”

I paused for a moment and let her question set in.  My first reaction was shock.  Perhaps I was being a bit insensitive, but in my mind, she was asking an utterly ridiculous question.  In the calmest way possible, I responded, “when packages get lost, I replace them.”  That’s it!  That is the answer to the question that is holding her back from stepping into her new future.

 But, I suspect she wasn’t asking herself the “what if” question in a logical way. Because if she was, she could have easily come up with a solution for lost package scenario.  Instead, she allowed the simple question to turn into a paralyzing fear.  Then I said, “you actually have an advantage….if one of your customer’s packages get lost, you probably have inside knowledge of the post office that can help you solve those issues quickly.”  “Yeah, she responded, you’re absolutely right…..thanks!”  I could tell from the sound of her voice that she realized how minuscule her fear was (especially a person in her position).

I don’t blame her though, because I was there too. Before making the decision of stepping into my new life, I battled the question “what if I fail at this, loose everything and become homeless?” For a while, I allowed that question to fuel my procrastination.  Eventually, after avoiding it for so long, I decided to actually confront my “what if.”  It’s kinda like when a person is being terrorized in a movie and finally decides to face her fear once and for all.  So I sat down and forced myself to logically answer the “what if.”   A myriad of realistic responses came to mind. Once I became at peace with alternatives, nothing could hold me back.  Fast forward, a year later, and I’m so glad I didn’t allow the what if question to paralyze my progress.

Don’t get me wrong, asking “what if” could be wise and prudent thing to do, if you are coming from a place of power, not a place of fear.  Get clear on whether you are asking “what if” as a powerful question or if you are merely stalling.  Today, I invite you to stop running from your what ifs. Turn around, look it straight in the eye, and show it who’s boss.

It’s Monday once again. I hope you have a highly successful week planned. Today’s conversation is one that I’ve been reflecting on for the past couple of weeks.  There’s something I’d like to manifest that is probably the “biggest” outcome I’ve ever desired.  But, although it might not seem like it, I have a tendency to drag out the manifesting process to much longer than it has to be.

In order to shorten the timeline of this “big” intention, I’m identifying all of the rules of manifestation and quickly put them into action.  Harnessing a success formula that’s worked well in the past is the fastest way to create the future.  As you read this entry, I want you to also reflect on what worked for you.  This way you can identify a systematic approach to manifesting. All of us have manifested in the past.  So let’s approach this like we are preparing a meal.  Grab the ingredients, carry out the steps, plate the meal, and enjoy.

From my reflection, I clarified the difference between desiring an outcome and engaging in the manifesting process.  There’s a real difference.  Simply saying that you want something doesn’t mean that you are actively participating in the manifestation process.  Or, at the very least, you are participating at the lowest level.  It’s like the difference between sitting in the nosebleed seats at a Beyonce concert versus being in the front row.  Sure, you’re at the concert, but are you getting the full experience?

To truly manifest (and to do so quickly) we need to move past stage 1 (desiring) and venture into the creation process.  Desiring is when your thought process is like “wouldn’t it be nice….”  Creation is when you say to yourself “I need this to be my reality.”  Sometimes, we stay in the desiring phase way too long. I did this with my dream car.  I thought of it as a dream car, and my actions reflected my thinking.  Meaning, I talked about it like it was a fantasy and treated it like something that was outside of my reach.  And….that is why it took so many years to happen.  Then, one day, after I ogling at someone driving my dream car,  I snapped out of it and said to myself “when are you gonna stop being the person that stares at the Audis and become one of those people who drives one?

That was the turning point for me.  Those people stared at on the highways wanted an Audi just as bad as I did, but they were actually driving one.  From that moment I realized the separation between myself and them.  They engaged in the creation process, while I remained in a perpetual state of desire.  Immediately, I decided to start manifesting and the rest was history.

Now, I have a much bigger intention in mind.  I’ll be honest with you and say that I’m currently operating in the realm of desire.  Why?  Because I view it a such a big goal.  Whenever we see the goal as slightly out of reach, we tend to gravitate back to the comfort zone.  Desiring is much easier than manifesting.  When I’m desiring, all I gotta do is look at pictures and daydream. No other action is required of me. But, if I’m not careful, I might find myself still wishing for this outcome 5-10 years from now.

I don’t have that much time to waste.  The game plan is to incorporate past strategies to make this thing happen in the shortest time possible.  Here’s what I got so far:

1.  Stop Operating in my head.   Fantasies reside in our minds. We should think about it and visualize, but if that’s where it ends, then we are still in the “desire zone.”  I’ve got to take real actions to kick start the manifesting process.  A real action is one that can be validated by another person.   No one can validate whether I pictured myself living the life I want.  Oh, words aren’t validation either.  You can say you’re gonna do something and take zero action to do it. So don’t let flimsy words  fool you.

2.  Prepare for it.  If you truly expect something to happen, would the first thing you do is get prepared for it?  Unless you build the ark, you have no belief in what is to come.  A friend of mine has been discussing her intentions with me about leaving her workplace for months.  There was lots of conversation, but then….she started preparing.   Here lease was up for renewal instead of renewing as usual, decluttered heavily and packed her items as if she were ready for whatever awaited her.  Within one week, she randomly received a call that could bring about the manifestation of so many intentions.  When I got the call with the good news, I wasn’t surprised. Why, because her actions were in line with someone who was getting ready for something big.  I even told her, “you are seriously creating the environment for manifestation to take place.” Days later….the phone call.

3.  Get your mind right.  In the past, whenever I wanted to manifest something I felt was out of reach, I worked on my mindset and believability.  Basically, what I tried to do was takeaway the anxiety associated with the new outcome by immersing myself in the environment.  For example, I watched a video posted on Youtube on how a woman manifested the home of her dreams.  What she decided to do was visit luxury homes and apartments in her city and do walk thrus.  I’m sure the first couple of times she entered those homes, she was probably freaking out a little inside.  Why? Because it’s a new environment.  I believe that “freak out” creates a separation between you and what you want.  What I like to do is remove that anxiety by immersing myself in the new environment.

Years ago, I felt that “freak out” whenever I walked into a luxury store.  To me, this signified my feeling of disconnect with abundance and wealth.  So I proactively made sure I got over that real quick.  Once that feeling was gone, I was able to elevate my abundance mindset.  If there’s something you’re trying to manifest, check to see if your feelings are connected with the outcome you wish to experience or if they are feelings of anxiety or separation.

Once you raise your level of belief, start preparing and move the manifestation process out of your head, then you are no longer in the land of desire.  You are fully engaged in the manifestation process.  From there, things will shift for your in ways that you wouldn’t have imagined.