By Sharee Silerio

Two years ago, I was sitting at my desk, trying to wrap my head around all of the work I had to complete, with very little time or support from my colleagues. I felt trapped, undervalued and overwhelmed. For several months, I had been trying to perform with the same enthusiasm and detail as I did when I started the job, but with the workload of two regional representatives, it was too much. On a Friday, my supervisor sent an email about my inability to catch up on my tasks, and I had had enough.

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The toxic environment, refusal to offer assistance and disregard of common sense broke my last straw. I didn’t have another job lined up, but I needed to get away from there as quickly as possible. I took a leap of faith, and the following Monday, I put my notice in. Since then, I have been freelancing as a writer, editor and media professional. Although it’s often a stressful hustle to pay bills and maintain my finances as a business owner, I’d choose working for myself any day. In a matter of days, I was free from the job that stifled my creativity; took all of my energy; left me with nothing to give to myself, family or friends; and made me feel like I was dying inside, to total freedom. I’ve faced so many challenges on this self-employed journey, and I have learned so many valuable lessons. Here are a few nuggets of truth and wisdom that life taught me after I quit my 9-to-5.

1. Freedom can be debilitating.
This is the most peculiar dynamic I’ve ever experienced. Now I know that it might not make sense that freedom can hold you back or keep you from doing something, but it can, if you don't realize its purpose. In other words, having the freedom to do what you want, when you want and how you want means that there are so many choices. Sometimes there are too many decisions to make, and you don't have time to process or figure out what to do. This is especially true if you need to make sure you “adult”, aka pay your bills while being your own boss.

 2. What I can, can’t, will or won’t accomplish is up to me.
Quitting my full-time job opened a world of opportunity for me. I could literally go in a thousand directions, and my ability to choose and be successful at anything that I tried was up to me. If I didn’t believe that I could do it, then I was the one holding myself back. Everything begins and ends with the mind when it comes to turning visions into reality, or nothing into something.

3. Intuition is everything. 
It’s so easy to get caught up in what you need to do versus what you are called to do. It’s so easy to get sidetracked, and end up doing things for money versus passion. The same goes for what other people see you doing as opposed to what you feel your gut is telling you to do. It’s important to tune in to what it is you really need and desire, and take a hard look at what will truly make you happy.

4. When things don’t work out, choose a different route.
Sometimes I feel like I need to do more to make up the income I lost when I left my 9-to-5. However, everything I have tried – applying for jobs on my own, with creative talent agencies, etc. has not worked out. These doors have been closed to me repeatedly, so I believe that this is a sign that I need to stop trying and focus on finding and doing more of the work I love. The money will come.

 5. Being well is essential. 
Working for yourself immediately rips the mask off of you and your life. Life becomes a mirror. When everything is on you; when you've broken out of the box; you realize that the life you live is a reflection of your spiritual, mental, physical, financial and emotional health. Choosing the freelance life revealed unresolved pain, issues and insecurities. I couldn’t hide behind my cubicle, position, or working 40 plus hours a week. It’s also difficult to ignore yourself, your emotions and how life is affecting you, when everything you desire is linked to your overall well-being. You must be healthy – emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally to make your new life work for you.


 Did you leave your corporate job? How did it impact your life? Are you thinking about leaving your 9-to-5?

 
 Sharee Silerio is a St. Louis-based freelance writer, Film and TV writer-producer, and blogger. When she isn’t creating content for The Root or The St. Louis American, she enjoys watching drama/sci-fi/comedy movies and TV shows, writing faith and self-love posts for SincerelySharee.com, relaxing with a cup of chai tea, crafting chic DIY event décor, and traveling. Review her freelance portfolio at ShareeSilerio.com then connect with her on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

Most people think working in the fashion industry is uber glamorous and whilst there are elements of it that can be, there's also a few down sides. I worked in fashion for two years before recently deciding to take the plunge into full time blogging so I've seen everything there is to see - the highs, the lows, the daily stresses. As I said most people think it's a super fun job that comes with lots of perks and in one sense it is. My favourite thing about it would be that no day is the same - there's always something new going on and its a role that is great for creative people like me as it really allows you to get imaginative and come up with ideas to make the business the best it can be. However, it also comes with a lot of pressure, stress and deadlines. I'd say it requires bags of confidence, creativity and dedication to make it in the fashion industry and without them traits, you'll soon get lost in a sea of competitors all trying to compete for that number one spot. 

It's a very fast paced industry so if you're someone who prefers to go into the office, know what you're doing each day and like to be left alone to get things done, fashion probably isn't for you as there'll always be someone asking you to do something, there'll always be things that crop up at the last minute and you may be required to work outside of the standard 9-5 hours to get things done! I personally worked in the PR, Marketing and blogger outreach department which I thoroughly enjoyed as it's something I have an interest in and being a blogger myself, I felt I had an advantage as I almost know what bloggers want to see and how they prefer to be contacted. If you're wanting to get into the fashion or beauty industry for that matter, having a blog can be a real advantage! It was always a big talking point in interviews I attended and it shows dedication and passion to the industry.

However, as well as the marketing team, there's many other roles within the fashion industry including buyers, designers, merchandisers, e-commerce executives, graphic designers, creative managers, models, makeup artists, stylists and a whole team managing those social media sites you see constantly updated. There's a LOT of people that go into the successful running of a fashion brand and it can be very full on which is something people often forget. You need to be on the ball with everything - important dates, celebrity gossip, new trends and up and coming bloggers just to name a few. There can be very tight deadlines to meet and every role often involves targets. So I guess one thing I'd say is you must be organised, focused and prepared to work under pressure. I personally work better under pressure as it gives you the incentive to get things done that bit quicker and to the best of your ability but I know it's not for everyone.

It's always best to get some experience in your chosen industry before committing to it as your chosen career and that's where internships come in really handy. I actually used to manage interns in one of my previous roles and the majority of girls I had working with me were really willing to get stuck in and learn as much as possible. That's the attitude to have in the fashion industry and it won't go un-noticed. Many interns I worked with were actually hired as full time employees when the internship was up to it just shows, hard work will usually pay off! However, as there's such a huge number of people wanting to work in fashion and only a few internships up for grabs, securing yourself one isn't easy. However, there's always other things you can do to give yourself an insight into the fashion work - there's loads of info online from people in the industry so a big tip would be to make sure you do your research before applying for any jobs! 


A new discovery of mine that isn't too serious but gives you a great insight into the world of fashion is Nintendo's new game for their 3DS console, 'New Style Boutique 2 - Fashion Forward'. The game allows you to run your very own fashion boutique and take on various roles to make it a success! How cool?! I used to be addicted to playing them when I was younger but as I've got older and life responsibilities have got in the way, my time for playing games has gone out of the window. Not good! However, no I have the 3DS (which is sooo cool by the way - 3D games? Yes!), I imagine   a lot of my free time is going to be spent on it. 

The idea behind New Style Boutique is that you can manage your own successful boutique in the city and take on various roles within the boutique. Fancy yourself as a designer, model, make-up artist or stylist? This game allows you to take on all of those roles, giving your customers makeovers and bringing new stock to the shop! As a fashion lover like myself, I've had so much fun doing this and I'm not going to lie, it kind of makes me want to open a boutique! I also have to point out how amazing the graphics are - I'm seriously impressed! The game is available across Europe from today so if you own a Nintendo 3DS and are interested in the world of fashion, you need to get your hands on it!


Have you considered working in fashion? Which role do you think you'd be best suited for?

 *I worked with Nintendo on this post. However, as always, all views are my own!



Most people think working in the fashion industry is uber glamorous and whilst there are elements of it that can be, there's also a few down sides. I worked in fashion for two years before recently deciding to take the plunge into full time blogging so I've seen everything there is to see - the highs, the lows, the daily stresses. As I said most people think it's a super fun job that comes with lots of perks and in one sense it is. My favourite thing about it would be that no day is the same - there's always something new going on and its a role that is great for creative people like me as it really allows you to get imaginative and come up with ideas to make the business the best it can be. However, it also comes with a lot of pressure, stress and deadlines. I'd say it requires bags of confidence, creativity and dedication to make it in the fashion industry and without them traits, you'll soon get lost in a sea of competitors all trying to compete for that number one spot. 

It's a very fast paced industry so if you're someone who prefers to go into the office, know what you're doing each day and like to be left alone to get things done, fashion probably isn't for you as there'll always be someone asking you to do something, there'll always be things that crop up at the last minute and you may be required to work outside of the standard 9-5 hours to get things done! I personally worked in the PR, Marketing and blogger outreach department which I thoroughly enjoyed as it's something I have an interest in and being a blogger myself, I felt I had an advantage as I almost know what bloggers want to see and how they prefer to be contacted. If you're wanting to get into the fashion or beauty industry for that matter, having a blog can be a real advantage! It was always a big talking point in interviews I attended and it shows dedication and passion to the industry.

However, as well as the marketing team, there's many other roles within the fashion industry including buyers, designers, merchandisers, e-commerce executives, graphic designers, creative managers, models, makeup artists, stylists and a whole team managing those social media sites you see constantly updated. There's a LOT of people that go into the successful running of a fashion brand and it can be very full on which is something people often forget. You need to be on the ball with everything - important dates, celebrity gossip, new trends and up and coming bloggers just to name a few. There can be very tight deadlines to meet and every role often involves targets. So I guess one thing I'd say is you must be organised, focused and prepared to work under pressure. I personally work better under pressure as it gives you the incentive to get things done that bit quicker and to the best of your ability but I know it's not for everyone.

It's always best to get some experience in your chosen industry before committing to it as your chosen career and that's where internships come in really handy. I actually used to manage interns in one of my previous roles and the majority of girls I had working with me were really willing to get stuck in and learn as much as possible. That's the attitude to have in the fashion industry and it won't go un-noticed. Many interns I worked with were actually hired as full time employees when the internship was up to it just shows, hard work will usually pay off! However, as there's such a huge number of people wanting to work in fashion and only a few internships up for grabs, securing yourself one isn't easy. However, there's always other things you can do to give yourself an insight into the fashion work - there's loads of info online from people in the industry so a big tip would be to make sure you do your research before applying for any jobs! 


A new discovery of mine that isn't too serious but gives you a great insight into the world of fashion is Nintendo's new game for their 3DS console, 'New Style Boutique 2 - Fashion Forward'. The game allows you to run your very own fashion boutique and take on various roles to make it a success! How cool?! I used to be addicted to playing them when I was younger but as I've got older and life responsibilities have got in the way, my time for playing games has gone out of the window. Not good! However, no I have the 3DS (which is sooo cool by the way - 3D games? Yes!), I imagine   a lot of my free time is going to be spent on it. 

The idea behind New Style Boutique is that you can manage your own successful boutique in the city and take on various roles within the boutique. Fancy yourself as a designer, model, make-up artist or stylist? This game allows you to take on all of those roles, giving your customers makeovers and bringing new stock to the shop! As a fashion lover like myself, I've had so much fun doing this and I'm not going to lie, it kind of makes me want to open a boutique! I also have to point out how amazing the graphics are - I'm seriously impressed! The game is available across Europe from today so if you own a Nintendo 3DS and are interested in the world of fashion, you need to get your hands on it!


Have you considered working in fashion? Which role do you think you'd be best suited for?

 *I worked with Nintendo on this post. However, as always, all views are my own!