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Pretty close to the perfect tshirt. By R13.

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I’ve always associated Malin+Goetz’s rum scent with the Soho Grand – finally had the clairvoyance to realize it could exist outside a hotel.

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Taking relaxation to a whole new level. Citizens of Humanity’s Frankie jeans.

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Current ring situation – Cartier, Hortense, Colby June, and Catbird.

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Wedge policy – go hard or go home. The Alexander Wang Marina.

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Last month at the beautiful Parker Hotel in Palm Springs. Most similar place to Wonderland that I’ve been. Note that they could teach seminars in amenities curation.

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Strewn favorites.

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Malibu dusk.

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For 80 Years, Gloria Steinem’s Made It Great To Be A Girl

Gloria Steinem is a hell of a lady. The writer, speaker, all-around revolutionary (and former model!) turns 80 today, so in her honor, we collected some of her best bon mots. She's living proof that feminism can be warm, funny, humane, sexy, smart, and everything else a girl might strive to be. Thank you, Ms. Steinem—for the opportunities, for your articulation, and for those amazing aviators, too.

Gloria's words to live by:
"The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off."

"A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle."

"A liberated woman is one who has sex before marriage and a job after."

"Women have two choices: Either she’s a feminist or a masochist."

"A pedestal is as much a prison as any small, confined space."

"We are the women our parents warned us against, and we are proud."

"Self-esteem isn't everything; it's just that there's nothing without it."

"We’ve begun to raise daughters more like sons... but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters."

"Fear is a sign of growth because you're doing what you're not used to."

"Too often, women just don't ask. "

"People think being pretty or beautiful solves everything, which, of course, it doesn't. The hard part, for me—I must say the painful part—is I work really hard, and then the result is attributed to looks."

"The art of behaving effectively is behaving as if everything we do matters—because we can't know what will change the future."

"We are becoming the men we wanted to marry."

"One day an army of gray-haired women may quietly take over the Earth."

"Having someone who looks like us but thinks like them is worse than having no one at all."

@SamirahxGilly shows us how she achieves defined, big curls using using olive oil, whipped butter and the key to this all, homemade flaxseed gel.

Flaxseed hair gel is a natural, inexpensive hair product particularly suited for curly or wavy hair. It defines and moisturizes curly hair without creating stiffness or crunchiness. Many additional ingredients can be added to homemade flaxseed gel to customize it for the particular needs of your hair. The following process takes approximately 7 minutes.

Flaxseed gel lasts about two weeks refrigerated, or longer with added preservatives. It can be frozen for later use.

  • Flax seeds
  • H2o
  • Soak the flaxseeds overnight. This increases gel yield, increases ease of straining, and reduces cooking time.
  • Combine the flaxseeds and water in a pan over high heat, stirring occasionally
  • Stir gently and constantly when the mixture starts to boil. Reduce the heat to medium when the mixture’s consistency turns into a thin, foamy jelly.
  • When the seeds remain suspended in the jelly instead of sinking to the bottom of the pan, turn off the heat and drain the mixture through the strainer into the bowl. Note: Rinse the pot immediately, as cleaning it later will be difficult if you don’t do this.
  • Whisk the mixture to combine ingredients and break up any clumps. The gel should be about the consistency of egg whites.
  • Pour the mixture into the container. Your gel is ready to use. Store in the refrigerator for maximum shelf life.
(Courtesy of WikiHow)

Have you tried Flaxseed gel yet? 

When contemplating returning to your natural hair texture, the idea of cutting off all of your hair may seem super scary, and that makes complete sense. Do you want to embark on this hair journey but don't want to cut 90-95% of your hair in the meantime? If you have thought long and hard about going on this tremendous journey and feel like it's the right decision for you, do not be dissuaded just because you think you have to do the big chop.

The big chop is the right choice for some curly girls who have decided to cease relaxing their tresses -- but not all. It is not the end all be all of the first steps of your hair. You can do whatever you want to arrive at the same result. If you're a little (or really) scared, rest assured that there are other ways to get from point A to point Z. Take a deep breath and relax. You have options! There is no one right way to do this thing! You have a choice and here are alternatives that will help you if you're on the ledge of taking that natural leap but don't want to snip off your strands.

5 Big Chop Alternatives

Transition Slowly

You can take your time and let your natural hair grow right along with your relaxed hair. Just be prepared to be very patient, loving, and understanding towards your curls as they blossom. You will need to learn how to maintain the different textures from the kinky and coily to the curly and wavy.


It might seem weird to wear hair that isn’t yours during your transition but wearing a protective style that doesn’t require lots of manipulation of your real hair is a great idea to reduce the potential frustration of dealing with two different textures. For days when you just don’t have the energy to deal, this is a quick, temporary option.


Whether you choose to add extensions like Brandy or just go with what you’ve got, braids are a convenient style that allow your hair to grow, rest, and stay protected. If you’re into the box braid trend, make sure you don’t get them installed too tightly. You don’t want thinning edges or balding spots while you’re growing your curls out.


Like braids, genie locs are an easy alternative to the dreaded big chop. Using yarn or synthetic hair, you can create the appearance of locs and let your hair relax while your new style does all the work. It’s a cute look that can be a go-to if you feel like you’ve already been there and done that back in elementry school.


With all the pretty designs and patterns of fabric and various ways to wear a head wrap or scarf, you have a lot of options for a low maintenance look with a lot of style. Not to mention, you will be keeping your hair protected from dirt, dust, and the whims of the weather elements.

Tips For Looking Not-Tired

As someone who regularly stumbles yawning and bleary-eyed into the office at 9AM, I've become adept at concealing my tiredness. It's not like I don't still want to pass out on my coworkers' shoulders—although the fact that they allow me anywhere near their clavicles suggests they have no idea how much I want to nap on them. It's more that I give the impression I'm not secretly eyeing them and thinking, "Ahhh, potential human mattress." Because really, what separates the professionally exhausted from what's commonly known as a 'hot mess' is nothing more than preparedness and a little sleight of hand (plus coffee; did you know a coffee with two shots of espresso is called a "black eye"? Now you do.). So if you'd like to assemble your own Pillow Fort of Lies, here are a few tricks:

Don't let your eyes betray you
Your stupid eyelids and under-eyes are just waiting to be all weak and let people know you watched eight episodes of Friday Night Lights instead of getting eight hours of Friday Night Sleeps. Eff that noise. Here's how you fix the situation: Visine, cream concealer, and yellow-green eyeliner.

First, the drops. I like to use twice the recommended dose. Is that medically sound advice? Probably not! But this is literally tiny dribbles of eye water we're talking about. If there were going to be a drug in which you could over-indulge safely, it would be Visine.

Now get your eyeliner. "But Lacey," you may be saying, "why are we using makeup the color of Gak?" Well darlings, it's out of necessity—and an awareness of the color wheel. You see, what you want to do is try and offset whatever bruise-like discoloration you currently have rimming your eyes. And guess what's directly opposite the lovely shade of red-purple making your bloodshot gaze look so intense? That's right: green-yellow. Just line wherever you see redness and blend it out until you don't think you're capable of blending any longer. Or embrace the Gak liner look and tell everyone at work it's a trend you saw on Into The Gloss—I'll vouch for you!

Waterlines look suspiciously vibrant and healthy now? Good; time for concealer. Normally, you might prefer a powder or liquid concealer, but when you're tired the texture of the skin under your eyes gets all crepe-y, so you're going to want something hydrating and opaque—hence the cream. I use a combination of Eve Lom Concealer and RMS Un Coverup, but that is because I am a semi-vampire (a Daywalker, if you will) whose skin is the color of actual paper and who requires Un Coverup's intensely hydrating oil base just to continue looking Un Dead. If you have some liquid or cream luminizer, go ahead and slap that on top, too—can't hurt.

Feign good health
If your eyes don't give you away, your skin definitely will. Your circulation's probably sluggish, so you're sallow, maybe broken out, and at least a little dry. This is why blush and a good CC cream are your best friends. I like MAC's CC cream because it has nice orange-y tones that make me look more like I've been on a jog than just dragged myself onto two different subways and eaten three doughnuts. You're going to want a hydrating formula no matter which brand you choose, though, because again—tired, dehydrated skin needs all the help it can get in the moisture department.

Once you put that on, it's time to layer blush on top. If, like myself and approximately three other people on Earth, you have cool undertones (very pale and very deep skin tones are often cool), baby pink blush will do the trick. I love Nars Sex Fantasy because it's magic; put as much on top of your cheekbones as you possibly can without looking like a clown. If you have warm undertones, which I can say with 95% certainty you do, try peach blush for the same effect.

Make your mouth appealing
If you've been downing espresso (and you should be, because god knows how else you're awake right now), you're going to want some whitening strips and a few mints to cut down on the gross-ification of your teeth. I love coffee, but its results are immediate and unpleasant when it comes to the dentifrices. After that, lip gloss or lipstick in a shade with a hint of pink so you're not all chapped, and voila! You're a passable human. Now get out there and make some sleep-deprived decisions.

—Lacey Gattis

Photos by Elizabeth Brockway.